A Love Letter to my Trans Men of Color
We gotta have a talk, men. I want you to know that I see you. I see the amazing things that you take upon yourself to accomplish, just because you know that there is someone out there who needs it. Brilliant, powerful trans men like Cris CeeKay (Community Kinship Life - Ck Life), Sean Coleman (Destination Tomorrow), and Jevon Martin (Princess Janae Place), pour their resources and lives every day into making sure that trans people are able to get what they need to survive and thrive.
One thing that kept coming up during the interview portion of the study was this feeling of responsibility towards “the next guy.” After each time someone described standing up for himself to a transphobic provider, it was always followed by something like, “It’s no big deal to me, I can handle it. I just don’t want them to do that to the next guy.” So many of us are doing this thing where advocacy for a brother in community comes so naturally, but often to the detriment or neglect of our own self advocacy.
I understand a number of reasons why folks might look out for others before themselves, but my point is this: we can’t keep this up forever, guys. You are important. Your life and your experiences and your wisdom and your *needs* are important. And if it helps you to think about it this way - if we don’t take care of ourselves, then we won’t have anything left for the next guy, much less the next next guy or the guy after him.
The thing about studies like the one we are running is that far more white people are inclined to participate than POC. There are a lot of reasons why, but at the end of the day when only white folks show up to get counted, then any services or programs that get funded through citing these studies will only center the needs of those white people. And you and I both know that there are often other communities that are in the most need of support.
So take the damn survey, would you? When you show up and let us know what you need, you get to do both - advocate for yourself *AND* for the next guy. What Gus and I are trying to do is build a body of data that says that trans men - specifically Black and brown trans men - know what we need to make the healthcare system better for us. But we’ll only get there if we show up.
We’re closing out on data collection at the end of this week. Please, please take the time and do it. It should only take you around 20-30 minutes. The next guy, and all the guys after him are counting on it.
http://tinyurl.com/TMHealthSurvey
In Community,
Charlie
Trans Men of Color, This health survey needs to hear from you. Read this impassioned letter from our friend Charlie and then take the survey at http://tinyurl.com/TMHealthSurvey


